“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” – Chinese Proverb
I’m sure you’ve all read that quote before, but I’m starting this blog with it for a very simple reason. It’s true.
Progress isn’t made without lots of steps, some backwards, most forward (hopefully). Every person that has ever achieved any goal in their life- whatever that goal might have been- had to start from square one, and commit to reaching that goal no matter what life threw at them. They had to decide to keep pushing and pushing until they broke through fear, shame, and doubt- to reach that commitment they made to themselves.
Phenomenal change is just on the other side of fear.
Not to sound like a motivational speaker, but it’s true. Your life can be something spectacular, and all your own, if you decide to face your fears and just … begin. Whatever your goal is- to drink more water, to learn a new language, to cut toxic people out of your life- you first have to choose that you want it more than you want to be where you’re at.
Honestly, in my own experience, making that choice to change is the scariest thing of all. It’s terrifying to imagine what might be beyond that choice- because it can be so hard to believe that your other life, on the other side of this choice, is truly going to be better than what you want to leave behind.
Fear is an incredible healing tool, if you decide to wrangle it, and own it like a warrior. You want to be afraid of change, and you NEED to move beyond it. Moving beyond fear, and taking those initial baby steps to a better you- there’s nothing that feels better. You are not meant to stay stuck in mediocrity. You are not meant to stay trapped by your own baggage, your own fears. You are meant to find freedom by moving beyond what’s holding you back, and seeking that life that you are meant to have.
You are meant to constantly evolve.
That’s a very overwhelming thought, I know. It feels like pressure right? When you think about where you want to be- it’s hard to get beyond the shame and guilt that you aren’t already there. That alone can derail you from making any progress. Those are big emotions that often crowd out smaller things, and we usually let them. It’s especially hard to get beyond those feelings if we’ve shared our goals with others, and seem to be falling short.
We compare ourselves to others. Which, let me tell you, is a total waste of energy. You’ll never get to where you want to be if you compare yourself to others, and especially if you compare your current self to a version of yourself that doesn’t even exist yet. You can’t compare your now with the fictional idea of who you might be. If only shouldn’t be a common phrase in your life language.
What you can do- if you really want to change- is to take each day as it comes.
Commit to your dreams as you are, each day. When you have energy to do a lot, do a lot, and be proud. When you’re tired, and you don’t get as far, feel proud of whatever it is you did do. Even if that was acknowledging a need for rest. You alone should worry about the direction of your future, and you alone should be choosing who you want to be in the next week, month, and year.
It’s terrifying- deciding to change. I’ve been there, a lot. Making that choice is worth it, every time. Whatever lesson you learn is worth it. There is profound healing to be found when you decide to not settle. Every single step you take, no matter how small or large, towards positive change is incredible. Whatever you do towards that positive change is brave, and you should always acknowledge and feel proud whenever you accomplish even a tiny step towards change.
Healing is found when you keep moving forward.
Keep moving forward.
You can do it.
Robin Lee is a medical intuitive, author, mentor, gratitude advocate, and speaker who has helped thousands of people around the world understand the language of their bodies. Robin believes that our bodies innately know how to balance and heal themselves if given proper care and support. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter, where she shares tips, tools, and techniques to honor our bodies and heal our lives!
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