Month: July 2021

11 Books to Help You Grow in Life

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26 Brilliant American Authors Quotes, to Embrace and Follow

Intelligent Quotes by American Authors

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Wise and brilliant quotes by famous American authors.

These quotes are valuable, useful and worth living by.

Read them with attention, think about them, and implement their wisdom in your daily life.

Wise and Intelligent Quotes of American Authors

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

“Do not lose hold of your dreams or aspirations. For if you do, you may still exist but you have ceased to live.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Money, it turned out, was exactly like sex. You thought of nothing else if you didn’t have it and thought of other things if you did.” – James A. Baldwin

moving from one place to another - Hemingway

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“You can’t get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.” – Ernest Hemingway

“Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.” – Robert Collier

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.” – James A. Baldwin

“The road to hell is paved with works-in-progress.” – Philip Roth

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” – Mark Twain

“Writing is frustration – It’s daily frustration, not to mention humiliation. It’s just like baseball: you fail two-thirds of the time.” – Philip Roth

Wanna Fly Toni Morrison

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“You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.” – Toni Morrison

“Love is, or it ain’t. Thin love ain’t love at all.” – Toni Morrison

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou

“Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain

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Years of love Edgar Allan Poe

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“Years of love have been forgot, in the hatred of a minute.” – Edgar Allan Poe

“All good books have one thing in common – they are truer than if they had really happened.” – Ernest Hemingway

“At some point in life the world’s beauty becomes enough. You don’t need to photograph, paint, or even remember it. It is enough.” – Toni Morrison

“We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” – Maya Angelou

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path, and leave a trail.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The path of least resistance leads to crooked rivers and crooked men.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the sensitive soul to tears.” – Edgar Allan Poe

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” – Henry David Thoreau

Trust life - Baldwin

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“Trust life, and it will teach you, in joy and sorrow, all you need to know.” – James A. Baldwin

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You have to decide who you are and force the world to deal with you, not with its idea of you.” – James A. Baldwin

“Never look back – unless you’re planning to go that way.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert Collier

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How to Consciously Manage Stress

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Stress is a common occurrence in most people, especially during the last few years. In fact, 68% of individuals reported heightened stress levels during the pandemic, according to the American Psychological Association.

Stress can make everyday activities difficult to manage; for example, stress and anxiety can prevent you from relaxing during a dentist visit, and may cause you to miss the appointment altogether even if you’re in dire need of a checkup.

Here are a few ways to consciously manage your stress so it doesn’t hinder your journey toward achieving holistic health:

Engaging in Regular Exercise

One of the most effective ways to fight stress is to keep the body in motion. You may think of it as intentionally causing physical stress to decompress feelings of anxiety and stress.

This is primarily because exercise stimulates the release of endorphins, known to improve mood and relieve pain.

Additionally, exercise is highly effective in improving the quality of your sleep, which is commonly worsened by increased stress levels. Working out also helps increase your self-confidence.

When you feel better about yourself, your mental well-being improves as well.

Use Essential Oils

Using essential oils can help you calm your nerves and help you get better sleep. Some of the oils that you can use for calming are lavender, bergamot, vetiver, ylang-ylang, and frankincense.

These essential oils can be diffused, but they can also be incorporated in scented candles.
Studies have shown that getting into aromatherapy can help decrease anxiety levels.

Try Keeping a Journal

There may be times when you will feel like your emotions are taking over your life. You can consciously fight the feeling by writing things down.

While you may be tempted to only jot down what’s causing you stress, it would be a better idea to write about the things that you are grateful for.

Taking a positive approach would help refocus your energy. Plus, it will help you keep your mind busy thinking about good things in your life.

Reach Out to People

Often, people bogged down by stress may choose to become a recluse or stay away from their support system. This makes it more difficult for them to get out of the situation they are in.

It’s okay to reach out to others to prevent yourself from drowning deeper into your emotions.

Spending time with people, particularly friends and young children can help stimulate the release of oxytocin, the hormone responsible for relieving stress.

Learn to Say No

Some stressors may be beyond your control. However, there are some things that you can control. You have to learn when to put your foot down and say no.

Remove anything that’s causing you stress and preventing a happy life. This is pretty common when you’re at work. When you’re getting bogged down by tasks, don’t take more than you can handle. Choose only those that you are comfortable working on.

Take it Day by Day

While there may be activities that you can do to de-stress, there may be deeply rooted anxiety that you need to work on for a longer period. Don’t rush, and take it day by day.

Focus on what you can take on each day. Get into a routine that will help you prioritize everything that you have to do. This way, you can have extra time to focus on yourself.

Stress and anxiety can be debilitating. Don’t let them take control of your life. Choose an activity that you can stay committed to for a higher chance of success.

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We Need More Authentic Leaders


We live in a time of fake news. Fake politicians. Fake social media followers. Fake advertising clicks. Fake genetically modified foods. Fake body parts. Everywhere we turn, there is some scandal followed by another one. It’s hard to know who to trust, and more importantly who to turn to for genuine care.

Employees are disengaged with lack of trust, and loyalty in both directions. Relationships have become dispensable fragile temporary alliances, not rooted in trust and authenticity, but on the benefits that can be derived from them.

At the heart of all these issues facing our way of life today, is a severe lack of authentic leaders. We need genuine, authentic leaders at the helm of companies, organizations, and governments. Leaders that genuinely care about other people, and who have developed self-mastery.

The path towards becoming an authentic leader is not easy. It requires taking complete and full responsibility for your life. Being willing to confront aspects of yourself, that in some cases, leave a lot to be desired. However, the gift of learning and owning your character flaws, is that it can help you begin to reshape them and take control of them.

Anything worth having is always met with great adversity.

Self-Realization

Mastering the skills of leadership requires identifying the qualities of a great leader. A great leader exercises good moral character, is compassionate, is accepting, is open, is accountable, has high integrity, and is on a constant quest to acquire knowledge, invests in self-awareness, self-growth and seeks ways to apply wisdom, not just knowledge. Finally, a great leader exemplifies perseverance, and resilience.

A leader’s goal is to set the example, and lead by example.

To become a great leader, you must become someone lead by core values, and someone who is committed to self-realization. The hardest person to lead is your own self.

An authentic leader is not defined by how many people work for them, rather by how many people their example influences for the betterment of humanity.

Authentic leadership starts at home, in your community, at the office, in your town, city, country, and it extends out to the world. A truly authentic leader can influence the course of thousands of lives, without ever coming in contact or having any communication with any of them. How is that possible?

Say a friend comes to you with a problem he/she is facing, and it happens to be something you are also struggling with yourself, leadership in that case isn’t shown within the words of advice you give your friend, but by your commitment to take on that challenge and overcome it yourself. The consciousness behind that decision is so that you can make it possible for your friend to overcome his/her problem, by way of your example.

To further explain this, imagine you struggle with pornography, and a friend comes to you revealing in confidence that he/she may have a problem with watching too much porn. There are no words or wisdom you can share with your friend that will help them overcome the problem. If you really want to help your friend, overcome your own problem with pornography first.

This is the true essence of leadership. Taking on other people’s problems as your own, overcoming your own challenges as a means to helping others do the same. An exceptional leader is tuned in to his/her surroundings as a way to identify his/her areas of self-improvement.

Be the Example

If someone that works for you does not make it to meetings on time, is it possible there are areas in your own life where you don’t show up on time? Perhaps you are supposed to have dinner with your family at 8:00pm but you work an extra 30 minutes and show up at home 30 minutes late.

Most of us will use the excuse “I had to work another 30 minutes, the project needed me”, but the family needed you too… so don’t be surprised if employees show up 30 minutes late to work, or to an important meeting… because it is a reflection of you, and your lack of commitment to being on time in all aspects of your own life.

Most people live a duplicitous life, thinking that what they do at work, is different than their home life.

There is no such thing as separate work life and family life, what you do in one affects the other and this is true in all aspects of life.

Most who don’t realize this, end up repeating the same patterns with the people they attract. The truth is, the problem is not with the employee who isn’t meeting your expectations, the problem is buried deep inside you as the leader, and the only way to fix it, is to look within yourself, and fix yourself.

When you change yourself to be someone who shows up on time in every aspect of your life, magically people start to show up on time. Yes, that is the power of authentic leaders who harness that inner spirit that creates everything that resonates outside themselves.

Self-Direction

Having a system of self-realization is more important that an MBA, or any other educational investment you can make. If you look at the most exceptional leaders of all time, some of them never went to College, but all of them left behind inspiration, because they understood the greatest secret of leadership of all time. Invest in self -awareness through a path of self-realization, or as some call it spirituality.

Becoming a self-leader is about becoming inner self-directed and a person that exudes or emanates positive attributes that contribute to the betterment of humanity.

It has been proven by science that it isn’t what we say that influences everyone around us, it is our vibrations. The waves we give off influence everyone we come in contact with.

Many talk about self-care, it is an important practice and very much needed. However, the desire to take care of yourself so that you can take better care of others, is based on an even higher consciousness. That’s the true essence of an authentic leader.

Leadership is about giving. To become an exceptional leader, one must become an exceptional servant. I am not talking about altruism; I am talking about creating for others that which you want to experience yourself.

When you care deeply about the people that voluntarily get behind your vision, be it your family, friends, employees, peers, you begin to transform within yourself the very things that those you lead need help to overcome.

Any flaws you identify outside of yourself is simply a reflection of something you need to become better at yourself. You must lead yourself out of chaos in order to remove chaos from other people’s lives.

Next time you are bothered by someone’s behavior or actions, know that the only reason it bothers you is because you possess that character flaw within yourself, otherwise you would not notice it in them. See it as a gift, a mirror of what you can improve about yourself.

To improve the world, to make the world a better place, you must lead the world out of chaos; the first person to lead is yourself. That’s the beginning of authentic leadership.

*Originally published at tulliosiragusa.com.


Tullio Siragusa is an expert level Certified Life Coach, a pioneer of disruptive technologies, an emotional intelligence (EQ) thought leader, futurist, speaker, and author. For the past 30 years, Tullio has built world class leadership teams in technology companies and startups. Tullio currently serves as Chief Strategy Officer at Nearsoft, he co-produces and hosts DojoLIVE! a platform that gives voice to emerging technology luminaries. He also hosts Rant & Grow, an entertaining and heart-centered reality podcast where each episode explores people’s personal blockages and how to powerfully move forward with careers, relationships, and self-realization by developing healthy habits. As a founding member of Radical, a social justice movement, Tullio is a strong supporter of human-dignity in all aspects of life, including freedom in the workplace.

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Video: Listening with the Heart Meditation

Direct mindful loving awareness to the mind. The mind secretes thoughts, stories and memories. You are the loving awareness that feels the stream of the mind, that knows it—all the busyness, hopes, and ideas. Listen now to the wisdom mind. It has a message for you. It has wisdom that you need just now. Now let the field of loving awareness open, so the heart knows you can listen to the world around you with tender care. By listening with a compassionate heart and a wisdom mind, your understanding can grow.

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Video: Listening with the Heart Dharma Talk

We are each other’s bond. We are each other’s community. We are each other’s family. What we most want, perhaps, is to be listened to in the deepest way, to be met with the heart. When we learn to rest in awareness, there’s both caring and silence. There is listening for what’s the next thing to do and awareness of all that’s happening, a big space and a connected feeling of love. When there is enough space, our whole being can both comprehend the situation and be at ease. We see the dance of life, we dance beautifully, yet we’re not caught in it.

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Everyone Is a Complex Web of Factors – Don’t Take Anything Too Personally

Once you recognize that everyone – and every action – is the result of a complex web of factors, it’s easier to not taking anything people say or do too personally.


One important factor for developing thick skin is recognizing that how people treat you often says a lot more about them than it does you.

It’s hard to take things too personally when you understand that everyone is a very complex web of factors.

If someone gives you bad attitude one morning, it could be for all sorts of different reasons: maybe they didn’t get enough sleep, maybe they are hungry, maybe they got caught in traffic on the way to work, maybe they didn’t drink their first cup of coffee yet, or maybe they just received some bad news. It might even be “all of the above.”

Does that excuse their actions? No. But it’s important to understand that people have a tendency to lash out against random people when they are in a bad mood even when they know none of it is that specific person’s fault. Our brains are not that smart sometimes. (This is also why I sometimes recommend we let people know when we are having a bad day, so they don’t poke the bear).

If you understand this complex web exists, then when someone treats you poorly your first instinct isn’t “Screw you!” but rather “Damn, that person must be going through some tough stuff right now, I hope they find happiness.”

This perspective creates feelings of sympathy and forgiveness, rather than feeling attacked and going into fight mode.

If a person attacks you directly for something you’ve said or done, you have no idea where that is really coming from. It could be a byproduct of their upbringing or past that is coming out – their “inner child” or “inner adult” speaking – not a rational calculation in their mind about you (there’s an inner parent, adult, and child that exists in all of us).

Deep down everyone suffers in life and they are just trying to find happiness, even if they are really misguided about it.

Perhaps they haven’t yet resolved a painful or traumatic event from their past. Perhaps they grew up in a broken home or harsh environment that makes them distrusting or cynical of others. If you could understand a person’s full life history – and the full context behind their lives – it would hard to be too angry or too upset with them and their actions. You’d be more likely to empathize with them instead.

Keep in mind: People say really mean and cruel things all the time that they don’t really believe.

When someone is caught up in the heat of the moment, they can be willing to say anything in an attempt to “defend” or “protect” themselves, which is often how people see any type of heated argument. They will even try to strike you at your core, because they are in “survival mode” and anything goes when you feel like you’re fighting for your life.

Many believe that the things people say in a moment of passion are what they really believe – but that’s not necessarily true. That’s just what they believed in that moment. People often regret the things they say afterwards, even when they don’t tell you they do (again the ego is always trying to protect itself).

Have you ever thought something that you don’t really believe? Our minds are constant brainstormers, playing with ideas and thinking new thoughts to find solutions. Just because you have a fleeting thought of “I want to punch this person” doesn’t mean you actually want to do it. One important aspect to mental health in general is learning how to detach from your thoughts and recognize they aren’t inherently you.

In the same way, when a passionate person says something devastating to you – that doesn’t mean they really believe it – that just means they didn’t have the impulse control in that moment to let the thought go.

Certainly you too have said things you don’t really mean from time to time?

We are all a web of factors, including yourself. It’s often difficult to predict how you will act in a situation until you are actually in it, especially if it’s a highly emotional and volatile situation (the hot/cold empathy gap). Sometimes we even look back at how we acted and think, “That wasn’t the real me – I don’t know what came over me!”

Recognizing that we all live in this complex web of factors can help us to be kinder and gentler toward both ourselves and others.

One analogy I often remind myself of is “people are like the weather” because they are hard to predict and largely outside of my control. That helps me become more accepting of human behavior and the many shapes it can take.

If someone gives me an unnecessary negative attitude, I playfully think to myself “Thanks for the beautiful storm,” I don’t yell at the sky and clouds from where it came from.

Of course this “web of factors” isn’t an excuse to behave any way you want or treat people however you feel in the moment. We are all responsible for navigating our webs as best we can.

Ultimately, emotional intelligence begins by recognizing these “push and pulls” from our surroundings but learning how to not act on them impulsively. We always have the power to say “No!” to any given thought, desire, craving, or impulse. It’s not “free will,” but “free won’t.”

No one is perfect, but we can all be a tiny bit better.


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