Month: June 2021

How to Manifest Happiness in Your Life – 7 Ways

Manifest Happiness

How to manifest happiness in your everyday life?

Everyone seeks happiness. In fact, almost every action we do is for the purpose of gaining happiness.

We go to work in order to earn money, so that we can have a house, clothes, food and to improve our life.

We believe that having these things and possessions would contribute to our happiness.

Everyone seeks entertainment and fun, go to movies, to the theater or to parties.

People eat in restaurants and sit in coffee shops. We do all these things so we can feel happy.

We pursue our goals, believing that their achievement will contribute to our sense of happiness.

The truth is that often, we don’t really get the happiness we are expecting, and when we get it, it is often short-lived.

How to Manifest Happiness?

As already said, most of the actions we do are for the purpose of feeling happy, even if we are not aware of this fact.

The question is how to manifest happiness always, since not all of our actions lead to happiness.

Is there a way we can manifest happiness, and enjoy it daily, irrespective of what we do?

Actually, there are various ways to do so.

There are various ways you can manifest happiness. Here are a few of them:

  • Changing your mindset
  • Positive thinking
  • Meditation
  • Affirmations
  • The law of attraction
  • Acts of kindness and love
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6 Ways to Manifest Happiness

Let’s now go into more details of the methods mentioned above.

1. Changing Your Mindset

If you let sad and unhappy thoughts occupy your mind, you prevent happy thoughts to enter your mind.

If you worry, and expect failure and disappointment you feel your mind with negative vibrations. In these circumstances, you will repel joy, satisfaction and contentment.

You need to work on changing your mindset.

You need to be aware of your negative thoughts.

Every time these negative thoughts arise in your mind you need to strive to replace them with happy and positive thoughts.

2. Positive Thinking

A positive state of mind is essential for a happy state of mind.

Believing in yourself and in your abilities, and believing that things will turn out well, clear the mind from negative thoughts, and make room for positive ones.

When your attitude toward life is positive, you feel more alive, stronger and happier.

You can find various techniques for achieving a positive state of mind in our book about this topic.

3. Meditation

If you haven’t tried mediation yet. You should try it. It is not a difficult thing to do.

Meditation calms down the mind and helps you master your thoughts.

Meditation contributes to inner peace, and when there is inner peace there is happiness. These two are interconnected.

Happiness appears when there are no thoughts to disturb it, and meditation is the right tool for accomplishing this.

Next time you feel happy, pay attention to the thoughts that run in your mind. You will discover that your mind is peaceful, with no thoughts disturbing it.

This means that if you can reduce the amount of restless, negative and meaningless thoughts that run in your mind you will experience more peace and more happiness.

4. Affirmations

What are affirmations? These are short positive statement that can change your mindset and reprogram your mind.

Repeating affirmations can change your attitude, and enable you to attract happiness into your life.


They do not directly create happiness. They change the attitude, making it possible for happiness to arise and fill your whole being.

Here are a few examples for affirmations for happiness to repeat every single day:

“I am always happy and content.”

“Day by day I am becoming happier.”

“I am happy every hour of the day.”

“I experience joy in whatever I do.”

“I choose happiness and positive feelings.”

“I am a magnet for happiness.”

Remember, to make affirmations work for you, you need to repeat them often. You need to believe what you are repeating is true or becoming true, no matter what your current situation is.

5. The law of attraction

You can also manifest happiness by attracting it to you through the Law of Attraction.

How do you do that?

Very simple, by visualizing yourself feeling happy.

Visualize yourself in various situations in your everyday life feeling happy and content.

Focus on feeling happy right now.

Imagine yourself in at work, at home, outside in the street or mall, with friends, and with your loved ones. In each scenario that you create in your mind feel happy, calm and content.

Focus on the feeling of happiness. Imagine that you are happy right now.

If your mind whispers to you that this cannot be and you are just imagining it, reject these thoughts. This might not be easy at first, but with persistence you would be able to reject these negative thoughts of the mind and focus on the feeling of happiness.

In time, the happiness you are imagining will turn into reality and fill your whole being.

You can manifest on happiness if you focus on it, since whatever you focus on grows.

The law of attraction works, when you use it correctly.

6. Acts of Love and Kindness

Expressing love and showing kindness create a feeling of happiness.

Strive to be more helpful and kind in your everyday life, in your relationships, at home, at work, and wherever you are. If you express kindness and love toward other people, you will get love and kindness back.

Being kind and considerate awaken good and positive feelings, and this contributes to more happiness in your life and in the world around you.

7. Gratitude Journal

There are many good things in everyone’s life, but people tend to overlook them. If you pay attention to them, you will discover some good things in your life, and this will help you feel happier.

When you express gratefulness to the Universe and to the people who helped you in your life, you awaken happiness, positivity and kindness and feel good.

Start a gratitude journal.

  • Write down in a notebook all the things in your life that you are grateful for.
  • Read this list every day.
  • Whenever you remember something else, add it to your list.

You can manifest on happiness if you focus on it, since whatever you focus on grows.

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You Deserve to Be & Feel Supported


We all need support, but most of us struggle to ask for it or receive it when it comes. Needing support is not weak. The weakness is in thinking yourself so strong, self-sufficient or solitary that you ignore your needs, and as a result sacrifice yourself or settle for less than is possible.

YOU DESERVE TO BE AND FEEL SUPPORTED…but are you asking for or receiving the support that you need? And are you open to receiving it?

In the 15 years since I began researching why so many of us are burned out mentally, emotionally and physically, and feeling like no matter what we do, it is never enough, here’s a few thing I uncovered:

We women operate like banks who only give withdrawals — we give and give support but we don’t receive the support we need, in our work and families to keep us healthy and well taken care of, and so we bankrupt ourselves — emotionally, mentally, relationally, spiritually, and physically. It doesn’t take my MBA brain to figure out the way we have been taught to lead and live is an unsustainable equation (and a raw deal.)

But women have operated this way for generations. Not having access to the support we need, we have acclimated by stretching and stressing our resources — life force, time, money –and as a result, end up sick, frustrated, exhausted and overwhelmed, resenting the things we love the most.

While stretching and stress is a part of life, our human bodies were not built to sustain that kind of pressure as a way of life.

The truth is: We all NEED support. But as adults, we’ve forgotten and deny this very basic human need.

Needing support goes way beyond a list of seven steps of self-care or being told to get more rest and green drink.

We need to FEEL supported at our core to have the strength to meet the world, do our part, shine and keep rising, no matter what.

The deeper support conversation I’m inviting us into is essential for our livelihood and our ability to have the strength to play the long game — to be victorious in our missions, causes and work, and be here for those we love.

If we don’t start RECEIVING + FEELING the support we need in our work, our families and relationships, for our health and peace of mind, we aren’t going to make it or be able to accomplish the things we desire to see happen in this world… at least not without sacrificing our own wellness as a result. #femininewisdom

But we can’t wait for the outside world to come by knocking on our door saying, “Ladies, we’d like to support you now. Change the world so you get what you need to be supported while you give and take care of so much.”

We have to start where power and wisdom always starts … within ourselves (as simplistic as it may sound, and as hard as that can be to swallow, especially within systems and a world not built to support women and children, yet.)

Wisdom is often simple in its truth, but the embracing and living of it is profound:

The support we seek from the outside has to start with the support we let in, receive, and are open to on the inside. #wisdombyte

For a long time, we have allowed the systems we work and live in to drain and deplete us because in many ways we didn’t have a choice. Trying to change the systems has been like shifting the course of the Titanic.

We don’t ask for or know how to receive the support we need in powerful ways. We didn’t have role models.

We ate the Wonder Woman Wheaties and bought into the “distorted” model of feminine power that says we should be able to do it on our own, figure it out, be stronger, be more self-sufficient. So we do feel alone and like the world is on our shoulders, a lot.

We get swept into the collective fear and lack, and fall prey to the mindset where all we can see is how we don’t have the time or money to get the support we need — which can be and feel very true. But stuck in that place — without the emotional, financial, relational, time support we need — keeps us looping in the very reality we desire to shift.

Here is where true feminine power and wisdom gives us real super powers we can put to practical use in our day-to-day lives, work, families, relationships and choices:

  • Require that you are supported in your work and your family and your personal wellness. Not as an entitled brat or a self absorbed bitch but as a woman who powerfully serves others and also takes care of herself
  • Know the support you need and ask for it, without apology, or attachment to the form — be open to how it shows up or the person it flows through.
  • Liberate yourself from the storyline of lack — in the moments you feel unsupported or without the resources needed, slow down, invite support in, and find the empowered path.
  • Ask for and receive support even when, especially when, it feels vulnerable. That’s where courage comes in.

Wisdom to guide your choices and perspective the power is in the inquiry.

Here are four wisdom inquiries I invite you to write down, and sit down with your own Inner Wisdom to find the path to the support you need:

  1. Where in my life do I feel supported now? This creates gratitude and proof you are supported.
  2. Where in my life do I feel unsupported or like I don’t have the support I need to do what is being asked of me?
  3. Choose one area you desire more support and ask your Inner Wisdom — What is the support I really need? Be specific and ask your Inner Wisdom not your mind.
  4. What is one courageous action you can take in the next three days to ask for this support? Do it.

This is how we live the feminine wisdom way — we slow down, tap into our wisdom and then respond, in our power and from a place of centered presence, even when it scares us.

To make this even more real, including a guided meditation to tap into your Inner Wisdom about the support you need, join me for this episode of Feminine Power Time: SUPPORTED! Are you receiving the support you need?


Christine Arylo, MBA, is the author of Overwhelmed and Over It. As a transformational leadership advisor, three-time bestselling author, and host of the popular Feminine Power Time podcast, she is recognized worldwide for her work helping women to make shift happen — in the lives they lead, the work they do, and the world they wish to create. Arylo offers trainings, retreats and workshops globally. Visit her online at http://www.christinearylo.com or tune into her podcast www.FemininePowerTime.com. Connect more with Christine and her community at www.femininewisdomcafe.com.

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Video: Summer Solstice Dharma Talk

Here we are in the change of seasons—the great turning. The sun is something for us to pay attention to, something we often take for granted. Notice the way the gift of sunlight streams behind everything—it feeds the plants we eat. We can be joyful for sunlight and trees, for people we love, for moments of goodness, and for the breath within our breast. And as our joy grows we discover a happiness without cause.

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This talk was originally livestreamed by Spirit Rock on 6/14/21.

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Judgment Stops When Truth Is Present


Put your baseball bat down and stop beating yourself. It is important that you acknowledge that your judgment is there, because if you don’t acknowledge it, you hold onto it forever.

The awakened ones look at a situation not in judgment, but in silence, and watch the manifestation afterward. It is important to stay still and quiet at all times, particularly if you are out of your comfort zone. The awakening factor is this: Send me, oh, Lord, all that is mine. Next, people come, and events happen, and items appear. Isn’t that our prayer? Give us what we need. You contracted to arrive here. That is the Divine contract that was written from your Higher Self to your Higher Self.

JUDGMENT VS AWARENESS

Everyone struggles between awareness and judgment. Awareness just is. Awareness and judgment are a double-edged sword with an extraordinarily sharp blade. The way to know the difference between the two is to feel it in your body. The discernment of awareness has no fear. It just is. The discernment of judgment cuts hard, and when you find out you judged wrong, it creates pain. If you want to know the difference between the two, it is a feeling. Awareness is sent down the tube of easy reality. Judgment is sent down the tube of your will. The most important awareness is to be aware that you are not aware of anything.

What is causing most of the pain is judgment. Judgment comes from information from others, gleaned from others in this lifetime and past. Judgment causes a lot of pain. Judgment comes from comparing yourself to others.

If we take the word judgment and change it to conditioning, well, then you know why you are here. You have come here to have your conditioning updated to Truth. Judgment stops when Truth is present. You have to know the difference between Truth and judgment. We all know there is a fine line between judgment and discernment. Sometimes we don’t know which side of that line we are walking on. It is very simple. When you are in discernment, there is no suffering. When you are in judgment, suffering will always be present.


Derek O’Neill, fondly referred to as the Celtic Sage, inspires and uplifts people from all walks of life, offering guidance to influential world leaders, businesses, celebrities, athletes and everyday people alike. Distilled from his life work in psychotherapy, a martial arts career and study with wise yogis and Indian and Tibetan masters, Derek translates ancient wisdom into modern day teachings to address the biggest challenges facing humanity today. For additional insights listen to his free radio archives explore over 20 personal development books including Stop The Struggle, Bullying, Love/Divorce, Grief, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Stress and Depression.

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Supporting Children Who May Be Nonbinary


Perspective #1: “My 5 year old liked the female characters best, loved wearing dresses, play painted his nails, grew his hair long for a while because he wanted princess hair, loves pink and sparkles, etc. I was quietly supportive by treating his interests like any other. He got the princess dresses he wanted for birthdays and Christmases, his colouring books were unicorns and fairies etc. But I didn’t make a fuss about it any more than I would make a fuss about my other son liking stereotypically boy things like dinosaurs and cars. He wore a princess dress to school on a non uniform day. I didn’t say anything to him beforehand as he felt fine going in and I thought even an attempt at saying I was proud of him for doing it would highlight the difference when the way I want him to feel is that there aren’t male and female toys or ways of dressing, rather than implying he is brave to do something ‘different.’ Mostly it was positive, pretty much all his friends at school are girls and they loved it. He had some slightly mean/questioning comments though from a couple of kids including ‘boys don’t wear dresses’. When he told me this I just said ‘well, boys don’t wear dresses that often so some people think that’s unusual. I think clothes are just clothes. It’s so much fun to dress up as Elsa” and that was enough to make him feel better. I want my child to feel free to explore, but I don’t want to make such a big deal that the child hardens into an identity that might not be authentic for them.” 

Perspective #2: “I love the idea of quietly supportive! But I also wonder about the messages kids get outside the home (or through media) and how to acknowledge the ways those interactions affect them even though we may not see or comprehend the full range. We’re not the only influences in our children’s life, and not discussing something because it’s hard or might encourage them further seems somehow counterintuitive to the quiet support. I guess I consider it similarly to other tough conversations—being colorblind isn’t the same as being antiracist for example, and as a white parent it’s only my unearned privilege that allows me to think I can control racist messaging by not talking about it. I would be surprised if there wasn’t some messaging he’s already encountered about how he’s expected to act as a boy. By not naming it or discussing, I think that could lead to lots of confusion or overwhelm. We know trans and nonbinary kids have higher suicide attempts and die more often by suicide.”

I love this discussion! It’s important that we find ways to engage respectfully about this issue, since we as a community are still evolving our understanding of the healthiest approaches to children who are, after all, still developing, and who may — or may not — be nonbinary.

I love that this mom “quietly supported” her son to follow his interests, including wearing a dress and painting his nails. I know that many parents would have found that challenging. I think all of us want to support our children’s explorations of self-expression. I agree that we should be supporting boys and girls who don’t conform to gendered expectations without assuming that it means they are trans or nonbinary. We don’t want to make assumptions, whether that assumption is that they are straight or gay, trans or nonbinary, or anything else.

After all, we won’t love our children any less no matter who they turn out to be.

And loving and accepting our children as they are is what gives them protection from the judgments of our society. Kids who are nonbinary and suffer mental health challenges are not only responding to the pressures of our culture. They’re also, often, responding to the pressures of parents who struggle to accept the child.

I think that our goal is always to take our cue from our kids.

If our daughter wants to wear an engineer’s hat to school or have a train-themed birthday, we support that. If our son wants to wear a dress to school or have a Frozen-themed birthday party, we support that. We aren’t making assumptions that they will become an engineer and we aren’t making assumptions that they will always love dresses.

BUT we aren’t making assumptions otherwise, either. And if our child ends up feeling bad because society reacts badly, I think they need extra support from us. So our support can be quiet when that’s all that is needed, and that is a huge advance from what most of us experienced as children.

But sometimes, because we are following our child’s lead, and also responding to what happens to them, I think our support needs to be louder. I agree with the second perspective above that because our society is gender rigid, we do need to offer children extra support when they venture to explore outside of that rigidity (for instance by wearing a dress) and get push-back.

The concept of non-binary is new to many of us and to most of our children. So I think it is important that we say to kids — ALL kids — that some people are boys, some are girls, some are neither, which can be called non-binary.

How might it look to support our child who is exhibiting behavior that isn’t gender conforming?

As always, we start by empathizing with the child when they share their experience with us: “Ouch. It could hurt your feelings to have your classmates say that.” We never want our child to have to suffer alone with the feeling of being marginalized.

And then I think we want to take the opportunity to both give permission and educate: “Anybody should be able to wear any kind of clothing. Boys can wear dresses, girls can wear pants. And some kids aren’t girls or boys–they’re nonbinary–and they can also wear anything they want! Being a girl, a boy, or being nonbinary has nothing to do with what kind of clothes you wear.”

Finally, let’s talk about empowerment.

If we send our child into a store to make a purchase, we arm them with the skills and the language to use — we don’t assume they will work it out for themselves, or even that someone in the store will be kind and helpful, although we hope that will be true. If our child wants to wear a dress to school, we hope that everyone will agree that all humans are free to dress as they please without that signifying anything about gender identity, and that everyone at school will be supportive regardless of our child’s gender identity. But because we know that our society is still healing around these issues, we might want to support our child by asking if other boys wear dresses, and if so, how others respond, and how our child might respond if anyone criticizes them. Yes, this might make the child self-conscious, and there are schools where it would not be necessary. You know if your child attends such a school. If not, you might want to have a calm conversation about how great the outfit is and how some people might not understand the choice, but that’s okay — it’s fine for your child to make this choice, and you support them.

And of course, if your child comes home and tells you that they felt badly in an interaction with their classmates, you would empathize and try to empower them, just as you would with any situation that makes them uncomfortable: “That must have felt bad when your classmates said that. I wonder, if that happens in the future, if there is something you might say to them that might make you feel better? Should we brainstorm?” 

The bottom line is that many children explore clothes, toys, and play that is not traditionally associated with their gender. That doesn’t mean they will be gender nonconforming. But it also doesn’t mean they won’t. And if we do have a child who turns out to be gender nonconforming, they especially need our support and our unconditional love. All children deserve the right to explore, to pursue their interests, and to develop as who they are. It’s our job as parents to support them, without pushing our own agenda. Either way, our choice of whether to support our child won’t change who they are. But it will change how they feel about themselves.


Dr. Laura Markham, founder of AhaParenting.com and author of The Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting and Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life.

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