Month: May 2021

Four Reasons Why Successful People Run

Successful People Run

Many of the world’s most successful people enjoy running. But it is often not only about the enjoyment factor.

Running can teach us many things and improve many aspects of our business and personal lives. So, if you want to become successful, you should consider putting on your running shoes.

1. Running Helps You Become a Better Entrepreneur

In an article by successful entrepreneur Svetlana Dotsenko, he talks about how he thought his marathon training would be similar to starting his own business in that it is all about persisting when the going gets tough. But as he progressed in his marathon training, he realized it was more complex than that.

He began to understand that getting to the finishing line takes practice and planning as well as having a sophisticated support system in place. Dotsenko also says that you need “a willingness to keep running – even after crossing the finish line.”

Another successful entrepreneur, CEO, and co-founder of Codeship, Moritz Plassnig, says he does his best thinking when he runs. He also understands how closely running aligns with a business mentality.

Plassnig says long-distance running teaches you to keep a little energy in reserve for when you need to give a push and work through the pain.

Entrepreneurs seem to learn a lot of analogical wisdom by long-distance running. So, put on your 5K running shoes and discover how running can improve your entrepreneurial approaches.

2. Running Teaches You to Never Give Up and Become More Disciplined

While running can teach you lessons in not giving up, it can also build consistency and discipline in your life.

The more disciplined you become in running, the more you will improve your performance. The same can then be applied to your business. With additional discipline in your business practices, you can create better efficiency and productivity.

Also, running helps you to build your confidence by achieving something that once may have seemed impossible.

3. Running Can Lead to Self-improvement

The thing about running is: it is not a team sport. That means it is up to you to give yourself the motivation and build the confidence you need to reach a designated time.

Without an opponent, you only have to win against yourself. Competing against yourself to better your time takes a lot of time, perseverance, and commitment.

By embracing such things in running, you can also apply them to other areas of your work and personal life and set yourself on the path to self-improvement.

4. Running Is Good for Your Mental Health

We have seen how running can benefit you mentally and how you can apply those lessons to other areas of your life. But running can also directly improve your mental health in various ways.

Successful people understand the effects that running has on their mental well-being. And the more mentally sound they are, the better they will be able to handle the business and personal elements of their lives. You can too.

Here are some of the key ways in which running can improve your mental health:

  • Stress Management. When you run, you increase the concentrations of the chemical norepinephrine, which helps to moderate the brain’s response to stress.
  • Prevention of Cognitive Decline. Running is thought to boost the brain’s power to minimize cognitive decline that generally happens after you reach 45 years of age. When you run, especially between the ages of 25 and 45, the chemicals in your brain that support and prevent degeneration of your hippocampus are boosted, meaning you can improve your learning and memory.
  • Greater Creativity. Science shows that a heart-pumping run can increase your creativity for up to two hours afterward. That is why many entrepreneurs say they do their best thinking during and after a run.
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How to Say No Politely (While Honoring Yourself)


HOW TO LEARN TO SAY NO WHEN YOU CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S FEELINGS BUT WANT TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF

When I got pregnant for the first time I got way better at saying no.

I loved my newfound clarity about what was and wasn’t allowed into my life and I knew I wanted to hold onto it even after the baby was out.

So, I’ve been practicing ever since.

For me, saying yes has never been a stretch. It’s the “no’s” that have tripped me up.

If you’re a recovering “yes-aholic,” too, read on.

Here are my go-to strategies for saying a clear “no,” which is a gift to you and those around you. Because remember:

SAYING YES JUST TO PLEASE SOMEONE ELSE ISN’T A TRUE YES. IT’S NOT GOOD FOR THEM, AND IT’S NOT GOOD FOR YOU.

 

DON’T SAY YOU’LL DO THINGS THAT YOU’RE NOT GOING TO DO

A woman walked up to me and asked me if I would review some of her work to give her my feedback. She was delightful, and I’m sure the piece she wanted my eye on was equally wonderful. However, I knew it would sit in my inbox, and I would delay looking at it. And it would bug me. And cause mental friction. And after all the delaying and hemming and hawing, if I did get around to reviewing it, I wouldn’t give it my best attention.

Why? Because it’s not a priority for me. Because I have several of my own projects that are requesting my immediate attention. Because it felt like a no. (By the way, something feeling like a no is reason enough. Those other justifications are nice if they’re true, but they’re not necessary.)

A NO IS A NO IS A NO. NO REASON REQUIRED

In the past I would have told her to email me and I’d see what I could do. Then I might have let her down over email.

Instead, I told her the truth in real time. I said that, while I loved what she was up to, I didn’t want to tell her I would do something that I know deep down isn’t a priority for me right now. It felt uncomfortable to say, but I said it politely and kindly. It felt freeing, too. We both knew where we stood. I wished her the best and gave her some other resources she might find helpful.

Take home message: if someone asks you to do something and you immediately know that you won’t, don’t say that you will. It doesn’t serve you and it doesn’t serve them. Keep it clean, people.

THERE’S NO NEED TO GIVE A REASON

Your no does not require justification. Here’s a great sentence you can use, inspired by my friend Andrea Equihua:

“Thank you for your invitation/offer/request. I’m not able to do it at this time, but if that changes, I’ll let you know.”

Gracious. Kind. Simple. Clear. Non-apologetic.

You don’t have to apologize for not being able to fit into someone else’s agenda. You don’t have to give 57 reasons why it doesn’t work. You can say it politely while still giving a simple no.

GIVE YOURSELF TIME

There are moments when someone asks you to do something, and you don’t know whether or not you can or want to.

There are also moments when you’re caught off guard when someone asks you to do something in person, and a direct “no” feels like too much of a stretch. (This is often the case when your “no” muscles are still developing.)

These are moments when asking for 48 hours to get back to the person is ideal.

They feel acknowledged. You don’t feel cornered.

Then you can give yourself a moment to check in while you’re not in their presence and get clear.

You can also take the time to compose a response that’s polite, kind, and respectful if it is indeed a no. When you’re just starting out practicing saying no, coming up with this kind of response in the moment can be quite challenging. Giving yourself a day or two helps you get your wits about you.

IF IT’S NOT A HELL YES…

You’ve likely heard this one before, but it’s one I remind myself of nearly daily, so it’s worth repeating.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

That’s it. It works the same on choosing where to eat dinner as it does who you’re going to marry.

THE GIFT OF YOUR NO

The gift of your no is that everyone in your life knows that when you do say yes, it’s real. They know where they stand with you. It puts everyone at ease.

And you honoring your “yes’s” and your “no’s” means that you get to trust yourself more and more, each and every day. Since you’re the only one you’ll be spending your entire life with, that’s a pretty big deal.

May we all have the cojones to say no when we mean no and yes when we mean yes. And may we all have the courage to keep the volume turned up on that voice that always knows. It serves us, and it sure serves the world.

Want to practice saying no together? I’m hosting The NO Challenge and we start in a couple of weeks. For 8 days, we’ll say no to 1 thing a day and by the end of it, you won’t even recognize yourself you’ll be so liberated.

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OVER TO YOU:

Have you ever said yes when you really meant no? What did it feel like? What are your “saying no” strategies? This is a growth edge for many in our community, so please share your best tips in the comments below!


Kate Northrup is an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother who supports ambitious, motivated and successful women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Committed to empowering women entrepreneurs to create their most successful businesses while navigating motherhood, Kate is the founder and CEO of Origin Collective, a monthly membership site where women all over the world gather to achieve more while doing less. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, and The Huffington Post, and she’s spoken to audiences of thousands with Hay House, Wanderlust, USANA Health Sciences, and more. Kate lives with her husband and business partner, Mike, and their daughter Penelope in Maine. Find out more and receive your free copy of the 5 Simple and effective ways to get the results you want in your business at katenorthrup.com.

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Awakening Self-Compassion

Awakening Self-Compassion

Hold yourself as a mother holds her beloved child. —Buddha

We are so quick to judge one another. And just as we are hard on others we are even harder on ourselves. With mindfulness, our natural compassion grows. We can see that we are all carrying our own burden of tears. You and everyone you meet are sharing in some measure of the pain present on the planet. You are called upon to witness this pain—in yourself and others—with compassion. But how can we do this when we live in a time where it seems we have lost contact with the power of mercy and compassion, when we have closed off to the suffering of ourselves and others?

We have to begin to sense the tears for ourselves before we can cry for others. These tears are actually a great gift. They are the same moisture that brings new life out of the dry earth every spring. For the Lakota Sioux, grief is considered a great gift because they believe the gods are closest to us when we are suffering. When a Lakota Sioux has suffered a great loss and is grieving, he or she is considered wacan, or “most holy.” Their prayers are believed to be especially powerful, and others will often ask one who grieves to pray on their behalf.

This doesn’t mean that compassion will be easy, especially when you’ve been betrayed or you’ve suffered some irreplaceable loss. As the Sufis pray, “Overcome any bitterness that may have come because I am not up to the magnitude of the pain that has been entrusted to me.”

You may want to heal, but still find yourself slipping back into old habits of anger and resentment. This can be the most frustrating. After struggling for half a century with the British Empire, Mahatma Gandhi said that his most formidable opponent was not the British Empire or the Indian people, but a man named Mohandas K. Gandhi. “With him I seem to have very little influence.”

But it is necessary to learn that you are worthy of being loved. Buddha put it quite simply: “You can search the whole tenfold universe and not find a single being more worthy of love and compassion than the one seated here—yourself.” Self-compassion and self-forgiveness are not weaknesses, but the roots of our courage and magnanimity. Sometimes compassion for ourselves and others seems hard to find. But even if you lose touch with these feelings during your most intense suffering, compassion is an essential part of our true nature. In fact, it is in this self-compassion and self-love that you find the strength to carry a lamp through your darkest nights. And it is by first practicing self-compassion that you find not only a way to hold your own struggles and sorrows in your heart—but through them you learn how to connect with the sufferings and sorrows of all those around.

This self-compassion helps us all survive. It causes us to jump out of the way of an unexpected fast car as we enter the street. We treasure our life. Self-compassion struggles to keep us alive even in situations of complete abandonment and abuse.

As you go through your difficulties, you can learn to bring a quality of loving care to everything you touch. You will find that love and care have an extraordinary capacity to transform the sorrows of your life into a great stream of compassion.

Be gentle with yourself—it should not be a struggle. Know your limitations. Extend your compassion only as far as you feel your heart opening naturally. Plant your seed of trust. It will grow in its season.

As you face loss, frustration, hurt, and conflict, invite a sense of your own dignity. Sit up, stand up tall. Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.

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Compassion for Imperfection

Compassion for Imperfection

What if you could love yourself fully, including your imperfections? What if you could love others in the same way? You might fear that by loving your anger or laziness, your addictions or your anxiety, that you will never change for the better, that you will become more angry, lazy, addicted, or anxious. But if you experiment, you will see that what happens is often the opposite. As you love and accept yourself in a bigger, wiser love, your fear and aggression, your neediness and inertia, lose their hold. The wise heart brings compassion to imperfection itself. With mindfulness you can become the love you have sought. And with this love you are also returned to yourself.

Try it. Imagine you were to love yourself just as you are – with all these human flaws. Every human has imperfections; this is part of human incarnation. Your task is to see them clearly and love anyway. Now become the loving awareness that can witness and hold your life with its successes and imperfections in a sea of love. Who you are is not the flaws and trauma and fears. These are outer human struggles. You are timeless awareness, born with original beauty, the child of the spirit having a complicated human incarnation, like the other 7 billion of us.

With this deep acceptance and loving awareness, step out of the judge’s court. Invite yourself to become quiet, at ease with your whole self, kind and thoughtful. With this accepting presence you will see yourself make better choices – not out of shame or self-hate, but because your loving heart teaches you how to care. The loving heart transforms the whole human dance. After you practice embracing your imperfections, you can choose other people to include in this practice. See and accept all their imperfections with a profound loving awareness. Take your time. Notice how this acceptance changes your conflicts and feelings for the better. Other people are learners, just as you are. And when you envision loving them with all their flaws, notice how your loving gaze and care might inspire the best in them. As Nelson Mandela says, “It never hurts to see the good in someone. They often act the better because of it.”

Love yourself. This is the essence. Then take your very human imperfections and make beauty anyway.

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Video: Loving Awareness Meditation

The freedom of loving awareness is available; it just takes practice for you to remember it, and to trust that it is always here. When you feel lost, stuck in a tiny part of the big picture, contracted, or caught up, take a breath and visualize yourself stepping back. With a spacious mind, you can witness even these contracted states and hold them in loving awareness.

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This meditation was originally livestreamed by Spirit Rock on 2/2/21.

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Heart Wisdom – Ep. 128 – Mudita: Practicing With Joy In Our Heart

In this dharma talk, we explore mudita. Mudita invites us to open a channel to joy, delight, and creativity. Joy arises, like the Buddha sitting under the Bodhi Tree, from following the heart’s silent source. When we get still, and the mind quiets, and the heart opens, and we remember that Buddhas live in joy even among the troubled; out of that stillness there is a silent source of something beautiful that wants to come through every one of us.

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Dating: How Shifting Your Lens Can Change the Game


Dating. It’s supposed to be fun. It’s supposed to feel good. It’s supposed to be a great adventure. But somehow, that’s not always how it goes. Why? Why do women (and men) often find dating to be a stressful, confusing experience? There are many reasons, but today I want to focus on the lens. The lens, the way in which one sees their environment.

Let’s back up. Let’s start with what women are taught as young girls. Simply put, we are taught, ‘you aren’t good enough unless you have a partner or get married.’ This societal teaching leads women to be focused on securing a partner versus securing the right partner for her. In turn, we end up acting from a place of insecurity and low self-esteem, when we need someone else to validate our worth. The flipside, when we are secure and confident, teaches us to think ‘what do I actually need?’ and to focus on making choices that fulfill ourselves.

Let’s look at how the insecure and low self-esteem lens affects us in dating.

We have all been in this situation….girlfriends sitting around at brunch reading and rereading texts sent from an on again/off again boyfriend. Everyone is scrutinizing the texts to determine what they mean. Does he like me? Does he want to see me? Is he making up excuses? Is he REALLY that busy? This insecure lens is all about HIM. How does he view everything? What does he think? Now, let’s flip this on its head and try a different lens. The secure and confident lens asks ‘do I like HIM?’ It isn’t your job to take care of his feelings about you. It is your job and your responsibility to take care of yourself and your feelings about him.

Often times, because of what we are told from childhood, our lens is desperation. When we are insecure, we worry about what others think of us and quickly forget what truly matters. When this lens is shifted to a place of confidence and security, we no longer have to judge what is shared with us by a partner or anyone else, but rather value ourselves. The internal dialogue shifts from ‘do they desire me’ to ‘they are lucky to have me.’ The soundtrack in our mind is suddenly placed on our own value and worthiness!

This shift from external to internal can change the entire dating experience from stressful and unfulfilling to an engaging supply of personal growth. While simple on paper, in practice it is much harder because it is opposite of what we are taught from day one. But, we challenge you, try and stop for a moment and think is this about my needs and what I want or is this derived from my desire to feel worthy? You may be surprised at what you find and how much happier you will be when you shift your lens.


Joanna Hakimi is a proud entrepreneur and can often be found singing in the car with her two kids. Starting her first successful business when she was 17 and being president of the Young Entrepreneur’s Society at the University of Georgia, she never closed the door on opportunity. She then went on to Northwestern University and attained her Masters in Science, becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. After being a successful LMFT in the northern suburbs of Chicago for more than 15 years while simultaneously running a mindful goods boutique for 5 years and accomplishing a 200 hour yoga teaching certification, Joanna was itching for a new adventure. After a phone conversation with a friend in California discussing ways to grow her Life Coaching business, the idea came about that independent professionals, such as Life Coaches, Health and Wellness Coaches and other similar people in the life changing business, needed a resource to connect potential clients with the LifeChanger they were seeking. That’s how her newest venture, LifeChangers.Info was born. LifeChangers has a mission to connect professionals with a new client base using a simple and inclusive site. When she’s not seeing clients or working to grow LifeChangers.Info, you can find Joanna hiking, making terrariums or, well, singing in the car with her kids…likely to Billy Joel or Indigo Girls. You can follow Joanna on Instagram.

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