Month: May 2021



Smith-Magenis Syndrome (SMS) is a rare developmental disorder that affects many parts of the body. It is estimated to occur in between 1 out of every 15,000 to 25,000 births. SMS is caused by an alteration to, or loss of, some genes on chromosome 17.

People with SMS have characteristic developmental, behavioural and physical features. Some of these include:
• Developmental delay
• Intellectual disability
• Low muscle tone
• Poor gross and fine motor skills
• Feeding difficulties in infancy
• Vision and hearing problems
• Sleep disturbance
• Behavioural difficulties

For children with SMS, early intervention can help manage symptoms, support better outcomes, and help them to achieve their full potential. Ongoing support from health professionals such as Accredited Exercise Physiologists can help people with SMS stay healthy and lead full lives.


People with SMS have been found to demonstrate behaviours with food that can lead to obesity. A study published in 2015 found these behaviours are like those of people with Prader Willi Syndrome. They include preoccupation with food and a marked decrease in feelings of satiety (fullness after eating), regardless of how much food is consumed.

These food-related problems can start in infancy, but this study found adults and children aged 12–18 years demonstrated the most significant problems with overeating and food-related behaviours. The researchers concluded that treatments used to prevent obesity in people with PWS could be beneficial for people with SMS. This includes regular physical activity.

Preventing obesity is vital, because obesity in childhood has been shown to negatively impact physical wellbeing. It is associated with conditions that affect many body systems, including the heart and blood vessels, lungs, nervous system, and bones, muscles and joints. Importantly, childhood obesity can also affect social and emotional wellbeing and self-esteem.

Children who are overweight or obese are more likely to remain that way into adulthood and are more prone to developing diabetes and cardiovascular diseases at a younger age.

Adults who are obese are at greater risk for developing several health conditions and chronic diseases, with risk rising with the increase in excess weight.

Along with health risks, obesity can hamper your ability to perform everyday tasks like climbing stairs or putting on your shoes and socks. These issues can impact an individual’s independence and their ability to participate at home, school, work and in their community.


On the upside, regular physical activity is linked with improved weight management, lower blood pressure, and reduced risk of many problems, including type 2 diabetes, heart attack, and some cancers. Significantly, regular physical activity can boost mood, increase energy, and enhance sleep.

Although more research is needed into exercise specifically for people with SMS, studies on exercise for people with PWS have shown most long-term exercise programs result in reduced body mass and better physical performance.

Regular exercise can support better health, function and independence in people with SMS, allowing them to participate in activities they enjoy and lead a satisfying life.


An Accredited Exercise Physiologist can create a program designed to suit each individual’s needs and goals. This will usually involve different types of exercise, including:


Aerobic activities like cycling, walking, swimming, dancing, or boxing promote a healthy heart, lungs and circulation. Along with resistance exercise, aerobic activities can help offset the energy input from food. It also activates release of the ‘feel good’ hormones that lift mood.


Low muscle tone is a key characteristic of SMS. This can lead to overall weakness and difficulty with co-ordination and gross and fine motor skills. Resistance exercise using either body weight, bands, dumbbells or other weighted objects can help build muscle strength and endurance and support bone health.


People with SMS tend to have a wide-based walking pattern and may have flat feet and short toes. Additionally key symptoms of SMS such as muscle weakness and obesity can also lead to issues with balance. Gait (walking) and balance exercises might therefore be prescribed to optimise an individual’s walking pattern and improve their balance.


People with SMS are prone to developing spinal curvature (called scoliosis) and exercise might be recommended to maintain spinal flexibility and good posture.


People with SMS usually need ongoing support to make positive health choices. Building caregiver capacity helps ensure health goals are met and reduces the need for continued support from professionals.


SMS causes a range of issues that can make getting adequate physical activity challenging. For example, intellectual disability can mean individuals with SMS have difficulty understanding why physical activity needs to be part of their regular routine. Additionally, some individuals with SMS can also exhibit behaviours of concern, such as impulsivity and explosive outbursts. In this circumstance, it is recommended to seek the guidance of an experienced exercise professional who has experience with SMS or who can work within the scope of an individual’s behaviour support plan.

Individuals with SMS may have issues, including low muscle tone and heart and kidney defects, that can make some types of exercise unsuitable. These complex needs mean getting guidance from an Accredited Exercise Physiologist is vital before starting an exercise program.

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Written by Amanda Semaan and Kara Foscholo. Amanda and Kara are Accredited Exercise Physiologists and Co-Directors of Active Ability, whose mission is to support people with disability to achieve optimal independence, health and quality of life.

4 Psychological Reasons You Feel Inadequate All the Time

Do you often feel inadequate, like you’re not good enough or unworthy?

Maybe you never seem to measure up with all your creative and ambitious coworkers?

Or maybe you tend to feel bad about yourself because your spouse is so patient with the kids and you lose your temper so easily.

It could just be a general sense of not feeling worthwhile enough that seems to pervade most areas of your life.

Whatever inadequacy looks like for you, it’s a painful thing to live with. But it’s also a tricky thing to understand, much less change.

Of course, there are a few well-known causes of inadequacy:

Unhelpful comparisons with other people aren’t doing you any favors when it comes to feeling inadequate. As Teddy Roosevelt said: Comparison is the thief of joy.

And a habit of self-criticism often fuels the sense of inadequacy.

And of course, early life experiences and trauma can obviously lead to a feeling of inadequacy later in life.

But in this article, I want to dig a little deeper into some underlying psychological causes of why you feel inadequate. Specifically, I’m going to walk you through a handful of subtle habits that may be maintaining your feelings of inadequacy.

1. Your emotional expectations are unrealistic

I think a lot of us know that unrealistic expectations are dangerous, especially for other people:

Expecting that your boss is going to be super supportive and nurturing all the time is a good way to end up frustrated and irritable at work.

Expecting that your spouse will always be compassionate and give you their 100% undivided attention is a good way to end up disappointed and unhappy at home.

Of course, lowering those expectations to a more realistic level (and keeping them there) is still a challenge. But the point is, in most areas of life, we at least understand that we should look out for unreasonable expectations with other people.

But a major source of feeling inadequate and unhappy comes from our expectations of ourselves. More specifically, our emotional expectations are way too high.

An emotional expectation is an assumption you have about how you should feel emotionally.

Here are a couple quick examples:

You assume that after criticism from your manager at work, you should be able to “just shake it off” and not be bothered by it anymore. But hours later when you’re still stewing about it and feeling anxious, your expectation gets violated which leads to you feel angry or guilty with yourself for still feeling bad.

You lose someone important in your life. Maybe it’s the death of a loved one or maybe you get broken up with by a romantic partner. Your assumption is that you should feel sad for a couple weeks but then move on after that and feel happy again—which to you means, not feeling sad anymore about your loss. Well, months go by and you still think about and remember the person you lost, and when you do, you feel sad. But because of your expectation that you shouldn’t feel sad after a couple weeks, you feel anxious that “something’s wrong with me” because you can’t seem to “let go.”

In both cases, here’s the problem:

When your emotional expectations are unrealistic, you end up feeling bad about feeling bad, which is what really makes us feel inadequate.

Your emotions are not something you can control directly. So it makes no sense to hold yourself accountable for how they should operate.

Drop your emotional expectations for yourself and you will start to feel more and more okay with yourself.

2. You rely on reassurance to feel good

A big part of inadequacy is low self-confidence.

Think about it: It’d be pretty tough to feel inadequate about yourself if you were very confident in yourself, right?

So one way of looking at the causes of feeling inadequate is to ask yourself, What habits in my life lead to losses of confidence?

And while there could be many sources of low self-confidence in your life, a subtle one that people often miss is reassurance-seeking.

Reassurance-seeking is the habit of relying on other people to feel good.

A few examples:

Whenever you feel anxious or worried, you immediately call up a best friend, sibling, or parent hoping for some reassuring words to alleviate your fears.

Anytime you feel indecisive or uncertain, you “check” with a variety of people to make sure it’s not a bad decision before you actually do anything.

When you feel sad and down, you immediately make plans to be around other people and use them as a way to cheer yourself up rather than sitting with your sadness and trying to understand it first.

There are two big problems with reassurance-seeking:

  • It leads to poor quality relationships and resentment among the people who are closest to you. Despite what they tell you to your face, nobody wants to be relied upon as your primary means of emotional support.
  • It kills your emotional confidence. Emotional confidence is the ability to sit with and manage your painful emotions rather than immediately trying to avoid them or “fix” them. But when you’re in the habit of always alleviating your painful feeling by having someone else reassure you, you’re effectively teaching your brain that you can’t handle difficult feelings on your own.

Sometimes you feel inadequate because you really are inadequate: You don’t know how to handle feeling bad.

And one of the most common sources of genuine inadequacy is that you don’t allow yourself to practice managing difficult feelings on your own. Which means you never get to build emotional confidence.

And if you’re not confident that you can handle your own feelings, I mean, why wouldn’t you feel inadequate?

3. You dwell on past mistakes

Thought experiment:

Imagine you have to go through life constantly accompanied by a grumpy little leprechaun who’s constantly reminding you of mistakes you made in the past and what a terrible person you are because of those mistakes.

Now imagine how that would feel—day-in and day-out to be criticized and reminded of your past mistakes.

Even on your best days when things are going really well and you’re feeling good and happy and content, all of a sudden the little guy would pipe up and remind you of that tone time you cheated on a test in college. Or that time you cheated on your first wife and your marriage blew up.

Even if you “knew” intellectually that those things were in the past, being constantly reminded of them would make you feel pretty terrible, right?

For a lot of people who feel chronically inadequate, it’s not a thought experiment… that’s their life!

Of course, it’s not a grumpy little leprechaun that’s doing it—they’re doing it to themselves by getting stuck in the habit of rumination or dwelling on past mistakes.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with thinking about your past, including past mistakes. In fact, it’s one of the primary ways we avoid making more of the same mistakes is by analyzing what went wrong and making a plan to avoid it in the future.

This is called healthy reflection. And it’s different than unhealthy rumination because of one key variable… It actually helps!

After you’ve made a mistake, taking some time to reflect on it will probably be helpful. But the law of diminishing returns sets in pretty quickly with reflecting on our mistakes:

Spend a few hours thoughtfully reflecting on a mistake… It’s going to be painful, but you’re probably going to learn a lot, which in turn will increase your odds of not making the same mistake again.

Spend a few hours multiple times per month thinking about a mistake… Well, you might still learn a thing or two, which could be helpful to some degree. But it’s unlike your return on investment for that thinking time is even close to as high as it was for the first few hours. But it’s still going to be just as painful.

Spend a few hours multiple times per week for years thinking about your mistake… At this point, it’s basically all side-effects (guilt, shame, regret) and no benefit.

The lesson here is pretty straightforward:

Thinking about past mistakes is a good idea if it’s actually productive and leading to new insights and better behaviors.

Unfortunately, many people get stuck in the habit of ruminating on their past mistakes well past the point where it’s productive, which means they get to feel bad about themselves and inadequate without any compensating upside.

The next time you find yourself dwelling on a past mistake, ask yourself this question: Is continuing to think about this actually helping anyone?

4. Your values are unclear

Famous New York Yankees catcher Yogi Berra famously said…

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.

I always think about that line when I talk to people about the importance of values for emotional health.

To be clear, I don’t mean religious or moral values necessarily. What I mean is personal values—the things that matter most to you in your life. It might be something like honesty or justice, but it could also be something like spending quiet time in nature or being a good listener.

Values matter because without them—without a clear idea of what’s important to us and which direction we want to be heading—it’s really easy to get lost. Specifically, it’s easy to end up making all our decisions in life based on how we want or don’t want to feel, rather than basing our choices on what we really want out of life.

And this brings us to inadequacy…

Feeling inadequate is often the result of living someone else’s life instead of your own:

  • You work in a career that you don’t really enjoy or find meaningful because it’s prestigious and looks good to your family, friends, and society.
  • You defer important decisions to your spouse or coworkers because you feel unsure of yourself.
  • You marry someone because they “check all the boxes” but you don’t actually enjoy being around them that much.

Feeling inadequate comes from knowing deep down that you’re not living the life you really want.

Just like inadequacy can come from a comparison between yourself and other people, it can also come from a comparison between your actual life and the one you really want to be living. And if there’s a big discrepancy there, there’s a good chance you’re going to feel a lot of inadequacy because you’re not living up to your own standard.

So, what do you do if that’s the case?

Well, a big reason why we don’t live up to our own standards and values is because we actually aren’t very clear about them what our personal values are! On the other hand, when your personal values are clear, they exert a much stronger motivating pull on you. And once you’re more motivated to live life on your own terms, feeling inadequate tends to fade.

If you want to feel less inadequate, start living the life you really want. If that seems daunting or confusing, start by getting to know your values.

All You Need to Know

If you feel chronically inadequate, there’s a good chance one or more of these underlying causes is to blame:

  • Your emotional expectations are unrealistic
  • You rely on reassurance to feel good
  • You dwell on past mistakes
  • Your values are unclear

Nick Wignall is a clinical psychologist and writer interested in practical psychology for meaningful personal growth. You can find more of his writing at

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Are You Unintentionally Manifesting Scarcity?

Are You Manifesting Scarcity?

Are you unconsciously and intentionally manifesting scarcity in your life? A scarcity mindset is a sure way to attract lack into your life.

Some time ago, my wife and me, dined in a good restaurant, together with of our friends, a married couple.

I would like to mention that his couple were in good financial situation, both of them worked and earned quite well. They had no problem ordering anything from the menu. Furthermore, the restaurant was not expensive at all.

My wife and I looked at the menu, and rather quickly, decided what to order. Our friends looked at the menu and could not make up their minds what to order.

After a few minutes I asked them, “Did you make up your mind what to order?”

The man looked at us, and said, “It’s all very expensive. I am looking for the cheapest item on the menu.”

Dorina, my wife, looked at them and said:
“Why choose the cheapest item? Why not choose something you like, and which you will enjoy eating?”

“It’s good to save money, but here, in my opinion, it has nothing to do with saving money, it’s a matter of scarcity thinking. You are just limiting yourself. You are manifesting a scarcity mindset.”

“What do you mean?” Our friend asked.

“When you limit yourself, and when you believe that you cannot afford something, you are manifesting scarcity. You are telling your subconscious mind and the Universe that you don’t have money.” I answered.

“This kind of thinking attracts scarcity, and does not allow money to flow into your life.” My wife said.

“Wow!” our friend exclaimed, “I was not aware of what I was doing. You are so right!”

“I always limit myself, and I often avoid spending money on myself, even if it is just a small amount, like buying an ice cream cone, a slice of cake, or even a bottle of water.”

“It is not that I can’t afford it, because I definitely can. It’s just an unconscious habit. From now on, I will to try to be aware of this way of thinking and avoid it.”

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What Is Scarcity Mindset?

What does it mean to have a scarcity mindset?

It means:

  • You believe that you don’t deserve a better life.
  • You think small.
  • You feel undeserving.
  • You always choose the cheapest option.
  • You avoid buying a new pair of shoes, until they are completely torn. You don’t buy new clothes, until they look really bad.
  • You avoid spending money of the things you need or want, because you believe you cannot afford them, even though you can, and have the money.
  • This attitude does not necessarily denote stinginess, and it has nothing to do with the desire to save money.
  • It is an attitude of fear.

Most People Manifest Scarcity Unintentionally

A scarcity mindset is a mental attitude, which has nothing to do with one’s financial condition. Both rich people and poor people are prone to this mindset.

Most people are not aware of this scarcity mindset. It is something they do unconsciously and unintentionally.

To grow out of it, you need to be aware of it. This is the first step. To overcome it, requires that you teach yourself to think big, develop self-esteem, and show more self-love.

There might be various causes for this negative mental attitude, such as:

  • Lack of money in childhood
  • Parents who expressed this attitude
  • Financial loss
  • Lack of self esteem
  • Growing in an environment of lack

Holding on to scarcity mindset is a sure way to continually manifest lack in your life. Is this something you want? I am sure you don’t.

Thinking Small – Limited Thinking

There is plenty of everything in the Universe. If you close your mind to the wealth of the Universe you push it away from you.

If you open your mind to the wealth of the Universe, you attract it into your life.

This is the basis of the law of attraction, and this why you can manifest what you want.

If you open your mind to prosperity and abundance, there will be no place for scarcity consciousness. You will open yourself to success consciousness.

You limit yourself when you think that you do not deserve to be successful. You also limit yourself when you believe that you cannot spend money on yourself, even when you have the money.

If you do not want to spend money on something, because you don’t need or want it, that’s something else. If you are happy, satisfied and content with what you have, that’s okay.

It is not okay, when you feel angry, resentful, unhappy and unsatisfied, when you prevent yourself from getting and buying the things that you really need.

Thinking small, always looking for cheap items, and giving up on your wishes, means thinking small. This behavior shows fear, lack of self-esteem, and lack of self-love.

Thinking in Unlimited Way

To avoid scarcity mindset, you need to stop thinking in limited ways. Here are a few examples and suggestions:

1) If something costs too much money, and you are not earning enough, don’t feel resentful and unhappy about it. This kind of thinking sticks you in the same place.

Never tell yourself that you can afford it and that you do not have money.

Instead, tell yourself that soon you will have the money. Tell yourself that you deserve to have money, and that you are going to earn more.

Repeating such words, means repeating positive affirmations.

3) When you have bills to pay, be happy to pay them. When paying them, say, “I am giving this money with love, and much more will return to me soon.”

4) When spending money on clothes, food, pleasure, and anything else, feel that you can afford to pay, and that more money is on the way to you.

5) Don’t always go to the cheapest item. Sometimes, it might be okay, as long as this is not due to scarcity mindset.

6) When you read about rich people, or watch them on TV, do not envy them. Instead, repeat to yourself that if you want, you can be rich too.

7) Avoid running scenarios of scarcity and lack in your mind. The mind is a powerful tool. If you repeat such scenarios and mental images, you might attract them into your life.

8) Focusing on lack attracts lack, and focusing on plenty and abundance attracts plenty and abundance.

9) No matter what your present situation is, never focus on the difficulties and problems, since whatever you focus on grows. Instead, focus of the good things and the good conditions you want to be part of your life.

10) Remember, there is abundance of everything in the Universe. You are part of this abundance and participate in it. Do not allow your negative thoughts separate you from this abundance.

11) Try to adopt a positive attitude toward life. Positive attitude and positive thinking will change your mindset, and allow the abundance of the Universe to flow into your life.

You can overcome your scarcity mindset, think big, and attract abundance and prosperity into your life.

There are various ways and techniques that can do this for you. You can find all the information and guidance about them in my book, Manifest and Achieve Whatever You Want.

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• Attract money, a rewarding job, a successful business, and whatever your heart desires.

• Find your loving soul mate.

• Get rid of negative habits, and build new ones.

Improve your life and achieve whatever you want, no matter what your current reality is.

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Video: Compassionate Heart Meditation

Picture someone you care about, someone you love. Feel the natural well-wishing of love. Surround them with care:

“May you be held in compassion.
May your struggles and sorrows be eased.
May your heart be at peace.”

Now imagine that this person wishes the same for you.

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We Need More Human Dignity

I often think about what is needing to address many of the issues we face as a society. What we are facing is multi-dimensional change.

There are many social movements in place. They are all very good and needed initiatives.

However, a lot of the ways many are addressing various societal problems are single-dimensional and are not dealing with the root cause of the problems.

Gender gaps, inclusion, diversity, equal pay, affirmative action, black lives matter, metoo, etc. are all very important issues that need awareness, and action — however they are the outcomes of something rooted deeply in something bigger.

The root cause of all our problems is lack of human dignity.

I am passionate about bringing the Radical Purpose movement to the world. To me Radicals is about the need to get to the root of not just our work problems in society, but how we relate to ourselves and each other as human beings.

While in Russia a couple of years ago, speaking at one of the top five universities, a young man, made a comment during the Q&A session following my Radical Cultures presentation.

He said: “What you want to do is change the world — you are getting to the culture, how people live, and how societies and countries are operating. It’s a huge endeavor”.

I replied: “Yes, it is a mission to change the world for the better, but we are focused on one person at a time. Just one of you here in Siberia, Russia can take these principles to heart, start a company, or become a leader in one, begin to apply these principles, and the change begins. Someone leaves your company, and brings the principles along to another company, and before you know it society has changed.”

I continued by saying: “The change starts with you embodying human dignity in how you hold yourself as worthy and extend the same to others.”

The even deeper root cause of all of our problems that are under the umbrella of “lack of human dignity”, is lack of self-worth. Lack of self-worth is a worldwide epidemic, a virus infecting all of humanity. It needs to be healed and that starts with the self.

The trunk to everything that can be good in the world is human dignity, and the branches of the tree extends to work, school, family, community, society, and ultimately the world.

The roots of the trunk need to be deep in a high self-worth foundation.

Being a Radical is about having a multi-dimensional positive impact on all our lives, by highlighting and having the courage to talk about ourselves, in an authentic, raw, and unapologetic way.

We humans carry so much shame from choices we may have made in our lives, related to relationships, work and career, education, choices in entertainment, because of a narrative that has not served humanity. The narrative of self-sacrifice, and selflessness, and doctrine.

We are not meant to be perfect; we are meant to be on an ongoing journey of self-discovery and learning. We need to start giving each other a break by not demonizing being human who screw up — often.

You can’t offer up to solve the problems of the world, without solving the source of the problems.

Society is a reflection, a mirror of who we are collectively on the inside.

The violence in the world is nothing more than a resonance of the violence within us.

The violence begins when we are at odds with our desires, and our actions. The violence begins within us when we have difficulty being kind to ourselves and demand perfection.

All conflicts within ourselves, amplify into chaos worldwide.

This isn’t some new age spiritual awakening; this is proven quantum science. You want to change the world? Start with the human in the mirror.


You can only extend to others what you value within yourself. If you embrace yourself even when you are out of sorts, you’ll extend the same courtesy to others when they are in the same mode of being.

Conversely, when you accept yourself as a gift in the world, you will recognize the same gift in others.

Whatever is external of you is a mirror of who you are within.

It’s important to not avoid or mask our darkness. We need to learn to be ok with going deeper into the darkness to discover the source of it.

We need to stop beating or judging ourselves up for having darkness.

You may have been chosen to play out the darkness so you could overcome it and create the frequency for others to tap into, in order to break free. Everything has a purpose, if we stay open to learning, instead of judging.

The way out of hell in life, is on the other side of it. The door is just past the point of no return, only those trusting that the door is within reach, can walk through fire and gain control over everything.

There are two ways to overcome challenges in life.

1) You work really hard to transform yourself, and to overcome the “not so good” traits; most of us end up simply suppressing who we are, but few do actually transform “some” aspects of themselves.

2) You accept yourself as you are, and you focus on becoming a being who bestows goodness in the world.

The first route will have you chasing your tail for years, and has been the cause of depression, anger, resentment and all the chaos in the world for thousands of years.

All the chaos in the world stems from lack of self-respect, self-love, self-dignity, self-honor, and lack of self-acceptance.

It’s impossible to accept others as they are when we still have things, we don’t accept about ourselves.

Think about that for a moment. Why do certain traits about others bother you? Because they remind you of traits about you that you don’t want to accept. How can you accept other people’s traits if you don’t accept yourself completely?

When you accept yourself for all of who you are, you can do the same for others, and you begin to experience life’s beauty in the imperfection.

Something amazing happens as you remove judgment from yourself, which causes internal violence, you remove it from the world. As judgment diminishes, so does chaos.

Chaos is energized by judgment. Judgment powers up chaos, remove the judgment and chaos will cease to have any source of energy.

As an alternative to judgment, you can try acceptance, acceptance shifts you into state of being where bliss is the normal mode of existence.

Acceptance is being present without judgment.

Love Yourself

A good way to practice human dignity is with yourself. Give yourself a hug and say: “I am great just as I am, and I love me just as I am. I extend the same to everyone around me, and allow them to accept me as I am. I can now focus my energy on emanating the love I have for myself to the entire world and allow the world to do the same in return”.

Most of the chaos that exists is due to hatred for no reason, but it all starts within. Why does judgment exist? Because of lack of self-love, and self-worth.

If we loved ourselves enough, just as we are, we would extend the same to the outside world and in turn activate the energy of mercy and love which knows no chaos.

For millenniums we’ve been chasing our tails, going in circle feeling bad about our “character flaws”, which in some ways has kept us from achieving our greatest potential as humanity.

Our lack of dignity towards one another is only a reflection of our own lack of self-acceptance and self-worth.

It’s important to get in touch with our own inner ugliness. This is very important, but for no other reason than to recognize it, accept it, and find love for ourselves anyway.

The less life we give judgments, the more they will dissipate within, and all over the world.

We often think free-will is about our ability to choose right from wrong.

The natural order of things is bliss, order, harmony… that is the normal state of existence.

So why do we not experience it all the time?

How we choose to perceive ourselves, is how we experience the entire Universe.

The only free-will we have, is to choose to either accept everything with love or with judgment. Love allows us to come to peace with ourselves and extend the same to others.

Human dignity is rooted in self-love, and high self-worth. What the world needs is more human dignity, and that starts with each and every one of us doing our part in loving and fully accepting the human in the mirror.

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Tullio Siragusa is an expert level Certified Life Coach, a pioneer of disruptive technologies, an emotional intelligence (EQ) thought leader, futurist, speaker, and author. For the past 30 years, Tullio has built world class leadership teams in technology companies and startups. Tullio currently serves as Chief Strategy Officer at Nearsoft, he co-produces and hosts DojoLIVE! a platform that gives voice to emerging technology luminaries. He also hosts Rant & Grow, an entertaining and heart-centered reality podcast where each episode explores people’s personal blockages and how to powerfully move forward with careers, relationships, and self-realization by developing healthy habits. As a founding member of Radical, a social justice movement, Tullio is a strong supporter of human-dignity in all aspects of life, including freedom in the workplace.

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